If you know me at all, you know that I have a thing for perspective. In my heart of hearts, I know that perspective can change everything. I am aware of the fact that my thoughts, words, and actions can be drastically affected by my perspective. I don’t always remember, or live out this truth, but I know deep down how powerful perspective can be.
So, take a short trip down memory lane with me. Let’s rewind to last Christmas season. I was just creeping up on my third trimester and spending lots of time at Hobby Lobby purchasing the necessary supplies for several handmade gifts for my loved ones. During one such time, as I waited in a seemingly unmoving line, the woman behind me meekly peeked at my belly and asked me when I was due. After telling her it’d just be a few short months before Adam and I would be welcoming our first child into the world, she took a brief pause, and I prepared myself for what I was certain she was about to say.
“Ohhh, get ready…sleep while you can. Take long showers while you can. Eat dinner with both hands while you can. Wear makeup while you can…but don’t worry, it’s so worth it,” I thought to myself. I’d heard all of those warnings several times before, so admittedly, I momentarily tuned her out. Thankfully, however, what I thought this sweet woman was going to say and what she actually said were completely different.
The first words out of her mouth were, “Ohhh, get ready…you’re about to experience the most incredible gift. I have a 7 week old daughter and I can’t remember what life was like before her. She’s my everything and it’s only now that I truly understand love. It can be challenging, but it’s so worth it!”
I was floored. This woman said the things I was longing to hear. She said the things that I was sure other people felt, but just didn’t say. She said the things that I had so hoped to read in all of those blogs declaring that they could enlighten new mamas to “The Top 5 Secrets No One Tells You About Motherhood”.
She and her perspective had a profound impact on me. I left Hobby Lobby that day bound and determined to share in her perspective.
Fast forward to the present. I now have a 3 month old daughter. I am now a mom. I have been forever changed, but I have held tight to the perspective I claimed that December day last year. I have often replayed that conversation in my head, but there is just one thought that differs from the woman I encountered in that unmoving line. I have found, time and time and time again, that the moments of hardship are more than worth it.
So, it is with that perspective that I give new mamas my “Top 5 Secrets No One Tells You About Motherhood”:
- The highs are more numerous than the lows.
- The giant baby smiles are more heart-melting than the giant baby cries are upsetting.
- The scent of baby skin is more delicious than the dirty diapers are smelly.
- The nights spent at home as a family of 3 are more joyous than date nights out are refreshing.
- The duty of being a parent is more worth any “it” you can possibly imagine.
Like that woman in Hobby Lobby, I can’t remember what life was like before I met Piper. Like that woman in Hobby Lobby, my heart has been so transformed by the blessing of becoming a parent that I’m not sure I actually understood love for the first 28 years of my life. Like that woman in Hobby Lobby, I am experiencing life’s greatest gift each and every day. Like that woman in Hobby Lobby, I vow to share with future mamas just how beautiful their new journey is going to be.
And, like that woman in Hobby Lobby I will choose a grateful and joyful perspective every single day, with one exception: I will choose to see just how much more “worth it” all of “it” truly is.
Nourish and Be Nourished::